Attractiveness

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; it's whats on the inside that counts.. blah blah.. how many times have we heard this? And how many times have you seen a Danny De Vito type dating a Cameron Diaz?
I propose a new theory- if everyone has a score out of 10, then their partners will be within + or - 1 rating out of 10 in attractiveness, or +/- 2 in special circumstances.

So what is it that make people attractive. Well you could go into the facial symmetry theories etc, but if you were to ask 100 people to rate a photo out of ten, you get an average score, for example 7. That's a rating based purely on their physicality- the important bit is that when they open their mouth, so many things can change.

If they say something stupid, and reveal substantial character flaws, -1 point or more. Put a cigarette in their mouth and from my perspective that takes off at least -2 or -3 points. If they're arrogant or have a "holier than thou attitude" take off a point or two.

This is probably best demonstrated with friends- ever known someone who you may have even made fun of when you first met them for being funny looking/ fat or some other less than perfect physical characteristic, but then after knowing them for a few years- you can't even notice it any more? The fact that they are so nice as a person adds to their overall "attractiveness" despite their exterior physical appearance- and the person who, once a stranger you may have thought- ew dont touch me! Now you feel inclined to give them a big hug.

As I've gotten older I've found my taste changing too. I used to very much find myself attracted to the tall, dark n handsome, muscle bound guys. Now when I see one of them I might appreciate their physicality for a moment, but I have absolutely no desire to have any interaction with them- physical or otherwise, knowing that if they spend that much time in the gym they're probably far more in love with their reflection than they will ever be with another person.