Backwards to a Foreword

I started these writings with the intent of making mostly comedic style social observations. But opinions are like arseholes- everyone's got one- and as if often the way- the original intent is not what has eventuated, as the darker side of my mind has been very much in control lately.

All my writings are essentially a point of view or recollections of lived experiences. As with witness statements, which are not admissible as evidence in court due to the high rate of inaccuracy- sometimes what I feel, think or remember won't be the same as other people who may have been present for the same events.

They are my thoughts, feelings and memories, and may not necessarily represent those of people represented in them.

Sunday, 3 June 2012

To call or not to call?

As a woman, you reach a certain point where you assume at least 50% of men who ask for your phone number will never actually use it. This proportion decreases exponentially if you 've slept with them prior to the number being requested.

Many women have shared with me their ponderances as to "will he call?", and while this reality is one which is often complained about by some, its not entirely unexpected when a week or so passes, and it no call is received.

There's many theories on why:
- often it involves alcohol  at the time of the number being obtained vs sobriety later
- the prospect of sex seems reasonably obtainable at that time, yet too much effort later
- they change their mind
- they really weren't that interested to begin with
etc etc

I can also think of plenty of the following variety of conversations from the female side:
- I gvae him my number because I'd feel guilty if I didn't
- I gave him my number because I was drunk
- I don't know if I actually want him to call
etc.. often accompanied with a feeling of relief when a phone call isn't received.

All of this said- I was really quite surprised when the following occurred:
- A few weeks ago I met a guy while out on the drink
- Apparently gave him my phone number (I actually have little recollection of this event, but due to the fact he called me the next day it's reasonable to assume that I did). 
- went for coffee later in the week
Then..
Four days later I received a phone call from said gent... to tell me he is thinking about moving interstate and isn't sure he should be getting involved in anything because of it, and asking what did I think about that situation?

To the best of my recollection, I never even exchanged saliva with him (am pretty sure of this!). After having gone for one coffee, it was a whole new level of awkward trying to say what I thought about it, given that I hadn't! Being as I am, I then developed a case of verbal diarrhoea trying to make up a reasonable answer, and probably told him quite bluntly that I really hadn't considered anything more than perhaps another warm beverage with him at some point. 

I am now more of a proponent of not calling if you're not interested- it far less awkard for everyone!
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