The single female threat

Being a single female is apparently a social faux pas.

You get disinvited to couples' things, as though the 11th person poses something more than a logistical seating challenge or the socially awkward pressures of having to engage this loner in conversation. (Oh no- what could I possibky have to talk about if not currently in a relationship *gasp*?!)

Then there's the women whose eyes narrow before they give you a fleeting glance up and down, then feel the need to put you in your place and say something belittling, as though they're threatened by your mere existence.

So tell me-  you tell me I'm fat, ugly, weird, unfashionable or whatever, then fear my presence around your male partners. This is somewhat inconsistent really, because if I truly were in the categories of freak you have me assigned (hasn't had kids by 30, and isn't crying about it daily- she must be about to spontaneously combust, and is therefore a risk to everyone by being in the room!), then I would not incite any fear about your partner being tempted.

So please, pick one, because it can't be both ways.
- if I am "ugly, fat, weird, yada yada" then I am not going to "interest" your partner. If you think that I would, then perhaps you don't respect your partners' standards very much! Also, if you really think he's up for the dingo run, then what does that say about your own confidence, sense of self, and the strength of your relationship.

If you find yourself having any of these, or similar cock blocking thoughts, like "she's not good enough for my platonic friend", then you really aren't protecting your friend- because you're treating them like a moron with no standards.

If it's your partner you're worried will stray then again-  I'm not your problem- you have bigger issues here!